1. Discover your truth
Often, we don't even know when we're lying to ourselves. Take some time to meditate on what's sitting heavy on your heart, or what in your life could be improved. Instead of blaming the world for what is going wrong in your life, recognize areas where you can take action to alleviate adversity to promote your own well being.
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2. Accept the consequences
In this situation, you have two possible options: A) you brood, grow resentful, suffer in silence, and blow up at an inopportune moment, or B) you gather your thoughts and present them in an honest, potentially upsetting but ultimately understandable manner. In option A, there is little possibility of salvaging the relationship. In option B, you create momentary discomfort, but eventually, you build stronger bonds and relationships. Recognize this option as the ideal alternative to find the courage to speak your truth.
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3. Communicate your truth
This is arguably the most difficult step, as it requires action as opposed to reflection. I can sometimes gather my thoughts perfectly and when trying to address an issue, I freeze. All of the well-articulated points I planned to get across get lost from the tension of confrontation. If this sounds familiar to you, it helps to write down what you plan on saying and reading the letter to the other person. This will help you be honest in a way that puts the other individual’s feelings into consideration.
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